Heal the Grief – Part 4On April 2, 2020 by mysticdd-admin
We will all face the loss of people we know. People who we thought we would see again when this all settles down. People we should have seen before this world was turned upside down. More guilt attached to not making time to see the people who are most important to us. For not keeping in touch with friends. For not knowing our neighbours well enough to check on them in this time of uncertainty. Do you know your neighbours well enough to call and see if if they need anything when you go to the store? Are you able to spare another household having to make the trip? Are you willing to do that for your elders? Do you even know them? The world that has made us so insular in the past has taught us that we need to be able to reach out to each and every person we associate with with more than just a wave or a nod as we pass on the street. It is my hope that when this all ends, we will all have a better appreciation for how much each individual is needed in this fabric we are weaving.
As the changes in the planet and in how we react within it adjust our conscious interaction with it, we find ourselves on the other side of the grief, not yet at acceptance of the change, but looking for the silver lining in what the changes have brought about. For those who have lost loved ones, this will forever remain a dark period, one where they were unable to process the grief in ways we had become accustomed to. Our support systems have changed. Our expectations have too. Our losses, while shared, are still our losses to bear. It is in the sharing that we are able to work through the heaviness of the emotion and let go of the regret, the anger, the pain. We have learned that the sharing of our feelings is vital to our own mental wellness. It is okay to cry with family. It is okay to cry with friends. And it is okay to cry with strangers. For we all find release in crying. It is why empaths and sensitives look at each other and say “don’t you start”. There have been many times when I have tried to hold my composure only to see the tears in someone else’s eyes. The simple acknowledgement of their emotional state is enough for my own emotions to well to the surface and demand to be released as well. There is no shame in crying. It is cathartic and healing for us to let go.
With this release comes the acceptance of change. For that is what this process has brought us. Change. For some it is life altering. Families separated. Loved ones lost. For some it is the establishment of a new “normal”, making time for what we have found to be important in this time of upheaval. For most it is the realization that it is not enough to simply wave and smile at each other. We need to make time. We need to be there for each other, in good times too. That neighbourhood party? That one that has been talked about for three years. It will be time for those. The family reunion no one wanted to plan. Yup. Those too.
It will be a time of coming together. A time of shared experiences. A time of remembering.
And finally, a time to heal.